20 cities where the most baby boomers will retire (the graying of America)

If I gave you time to change my mind
I´d try to leave all the past behind
Knowing that you lied straight-faced while I cried

Still I look to find a reason to believe
-- From the forever young Rod Stewart, 65

Last night, I stumbled upon a 2009 report from the Brookings Institution that listed the top 20 cities in the United States where the most Baby Boomers (b. 1943-60) will retire. According to the report, most of the Boomers have lived in these locations for a long time.

Raleigh
Austin
Atlanta
Boise
Las Vegas
Orlando
Houston
Dallas/Fort Worth
Colorado Springs
McAllen/Edinburg/Mission, TX
Phoenix
Charleston
Albuquerque
Tuscson
Washington D.C.
Salt Lake City
Charlotte
Denver

Nashville

Ogden

Interestingly, on page 14 of the report, I discovered that only five states have fewer Boomers retiring than the state in which I reside, Oklahoma. This means that Boomers will continue to serve as a significant source of tax revenues in the Boomer, I mean Sooner, State. Ha! I think that is a good economic news, but it also means than in Oklahoma, Generations X (b. 1961-81) and Y (b. 1982-1997) will be slower to move into senior positions held by Boomers.

Look at this way, Gen X, you'll have that much longer to 

• Figure out what you want to be when you grow up
• Finish your degree; you know, your P.H.D.
• RAISE. YOUR. KIDS.

Besides, it's like a Boomer friend of mine told me recently - when you're in the executive suite, you get your arms shot off quite often. Still, we look to find a reason to believe...

Do Gen X Actors Fear Being Wiped Out?

Image by Getty Images via Daylife

After Van Toffler said MTV was pushing out Generation X (15 years after we, um, dumped the network) I'm reluctant to link to their content. So, excuse me while I get over it.

(OK. I'm over it.)

Ha! That took a second.

With all due respect, there is an interesting piece on MTV.com about Avatar possibly losing out on a big Oscar sweep because members of the Academy (specifically mentioned - older Gen Xers) are afraid of being "digitally wiped out."

"...Critics point to several inherent weaknesses, however, including actor fears within the Academy, traditional notions of film and political trends.

"For whatever reason, boomer-age people, older Gen X-ers [in the Academy] are threatened by it," journalist and Hollywood Elsewhere writer Jeff Wells told MTV News. "They feel on some level that they're going to be lost, that they're going to be digitally wiped out in the future."

The basic summary of the article is that things have changed - "big time." The majority of Academy members who vote on the Oscars aren't working much anymore and are "marginal."

It's really going to be interesting to see the influence of Generation X members of the Academy in years to come. To quote the Gen Xer who ran away with the best actress Oscar this year: "I don't like when people tell me I can't do something. Just because I did commercial films doesn't mean I can't do wonderful, small art-house films." (Sandra Bullock)

Did the Self-Image of Gen X age 10 years on Sunday?

When the Brat Pack of John Hughes fame appeared on stage at the Oscars Sunday night, I was like WHOA!!!!! Who are those people? If I'd passed Judd Nelson, Molly Ringwold or Anthony Michael Hall on the street, I'm not sure I would have recognized them. Then, I read something James Poniezowik wrote about the Oscars in a Time Magazine blog post:

"...an extended, and sweet, tribute to John Hughes (even if the appearance of a crew of Hughes alumni aged the self-image of Generation X about ten years).

Did your self-image age Sunday night? What do you think about the Brat Pack after all these years? I'm thinking remake, remake. There are plenty of new Gen X archetypes the pack can explore and develop: the over-educated; the under-employed; those who've left the church, and let's not forget, the hyper-parent. Ha!

hey ferris, is this your day off? oscar tribute to john hughes

In case you missed last night's Oscar tribute to John Hughes, here it is. The video below this is of Molly Ringwold and Matthew Broderick introducing the tribute.

you don't see this tattoo everyday

Gaelic to English: As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. Joshua 24:15

photo from tquizzle via flickr.

2 things Gen Xers can do to fight the locusts eating their future

Not Birds., locust. Image by [niv] via Flickr

Bob Burnett is one of the founding executives of Cisco Systems, the leading supplier of networking equipment and network management for the Internet. Today, he is a Berkeley writer and activist. He is also a Quaker, and he has written an essay, America's Locust Years, in which we have more stunning finger pointing at Baby Boomers for "eating through a staggering amount of our national wealth and natural world."

I come across content of this nature often in my research about Generation X, but this is the worst such indictment on this generation I have yet to read. It is not pretty, and it just makes me wince a little to even link to it. But, I am linking to it because Burnett does something that a lot of people who write similar content don't do. He offers a suggestion on how we can turn the ship around and end these locust years. "Speak the truth and fight the locusts," he writes.

The American progressive tradition has to been to stand up and fight whenever it appeared that democracy was on the ropes. This is one of those times. America has suffered thirty years "that the locust hath eaten." Time is running out. We may not survive another "heart attack."

There is so much that needs to be done that it is difficult to say where to start. Each of us has to think about the moral commitment we are prepared to make. Here are two modest suggestions: First, speak the truth. Tell everyone you know about the locusts, about the terrible problems that Americans must face. Second, prepare for sacrifice. Dealing with these problems is going to hurt, but the pain will be bearable if we face the locusts together.

What moral commitment are you willing to make? Burnett says since the election of Ronald Reagan in 1980, Americans have become moral weenies. I'd like to write an article for Technorati - 10 Ways Generation X Can Fight the Locusts. What sacrifices do you suggest I include? What truths do we need to speak? Leave a comment or email me at jenx67[at]cox[dot]net. If I use your ideas, I will provide attribution and a link to a site of your choosing.

i was so lost, i should have died. how 'bout you?

I was so lost I should have died
But You have brought me to Your side
To be led by Your staff and rod
And to be call a lamb of God
--from Paris and Lamb of God

Pretend the big one is God and you're one of the little ones.

photo from tambako the jaguar via flickr

Richard Beck, an associate professor of experimental psychology at Abilene Christian University, has a blog, and today he has a post about how Facebook killed the church.

In case you're late to the party, a large portion of Generation X (by broadest definition those born between 1961-81) pretty much left the church a long time ago. It appears that Generation Y is leaving it in even greater droves. There was a popular Christian song many years ago: My House is full, but my fields are empty. Who will work for me today?

I'm not so sure it's relevant anymore, because the House of  God, um, not so full. So, what happened?

Beck, who writes a compelling essay, believes social computing is to blame. He says Gen X and Gen Y will blame leaving the church on things like shallowness and hypocrisy, but writes that the church's main draw is social connection and affiliation. He says Generation Y (Millennials) (and Gen Xers) don't have to go to church to stay connected. Basically, we just have to jump on Facebook - where not only our virtual friends exist, but our actual friends, too. 

I think Beck has it partly right, but here's what I'm thinking. Facebook and Twitter can be just as lonely as church. How many burdens can you share in 140 characters? How much community can you have via status updates? And, what about Jesus? The irresistable Son of God?

After I left a comment on Beck's post, in which I mentioned Jesus, I went back and hit CONTROL F and then typed "JESUS" in the dialogue box that appeared to see how many times the word was mentioned in the essay or in the 18 or so comments that followed. The only time it appears is in my comment.

Interesting, how often Jesus is left out of these conversations.

Here is a link to a sweet Oklahoma boy singing Lamb of God Bluegrass style.

Saturday Morning Cartoon: The Pink Panther

I'm not sure which is funnier in this 8th episode of the cartoon, The Pink Panther - how clean Pink's basement is or how he opts to fix his leaky shower instead of hiring a plumber for "$7.50 an hour."

The Pink Panther began airing on Saturday mornings in 1969, although it was originally created for the opening and closing segments of the 1963 action movie of the same name. Up until this past December, the cartoon continued airing on the Cartoon Network. Today, Spanish dubbed versions can be seen on Telemundo.

The theme to The Pink Panther, composed by Henry Mancini, is one of the most recognizable ever written.

Did you watch The Pink Panther? Da da da da...

5 favorite posts of the week 3.5.10

I love it when people send me links to Generation X content on the Web!

I received two this week. The first, Fleeting Youth, Fading Creativity, is a somewhat disturbing read about the lack of funding younger (as in Generation X) scientists have received compared to scientists from older generations. The good news in all this is that the Grand Challenges Explorations Program is trying to reverse this trend. This article is from the Wall Street Journal. Thanks, LM!

The second link (from the Gen X blogger The Shape of X) I received was to a new study, The Experience of Generation X Faculty. This is a 23-page report that rings many bells we've heard before: Generation X wants work-life balance and we lack community. What I found most interesting was the intra-generational differences between younger Xers and older Xers (pages 4-5). Also, unlike most Gen Xers, who incessantly job hop, the research indicates Gen X faculty members have no plans to leave their current institutions. In summary, the report says Generation X is good for academia.

I got a real kick out of two different blog posts this week about Gen X super stars. Sherri writes about Neil Patrick Harris playing a Smurf! and Andi writes about five things she's learned from Johnny Depp.

Well, that's only four. I've been really slammed the past two weeks and unable to visit many of my favorite blogs. I'll catch up with everyone soon!

today my father officially becomes an octogenarian

Today is my father's 80th birthday. Wow. Happy Birthday, DB! You mean the world to me! --YBG

Here is something I wrote on Sunday.

I saw my father today. I walked into his room to find him staring out the window. He was wearing cranberry-colored sweats. My father would not have been caught dead in sweats prior to his nursing home days.

I say hello, daddy, and he says hello, Becky, and I say I’m Jenni, Dad, and he looks at me in disbelief. I say I’m 42 now, and he says, how’d you get so old so fast?

I tell him I sent one of his poems to a magazine-editor friend of mine, and I think maybe they’ll publish it. I tell him he is almost famous, and he says they better hurry up before he dies. My father has been making jokes about dying for 30 years.

I tell them they would like to see a poem about Oklahoma, but he shakes his head. I remind him about a poem he wrote about Bartlesville. He has no idea what I am talking about. The Corps of Engineers; that calamity so many years ago. They opened the dam and accidentally flooded the town. He was so angry, but he has forgotten it, like so many things.

I tell him I’m sorry he has to live in this home and he says he’ll be leaving it in a few days. Then he tells me he’s had a good life, and I tell him he has a lot to look forward to.

I’ve been trying to let my dad go, lately. I’ve been thinking of heaven and how his mother is there, and how very happy he’ll be to see her. I ask him if he remembers his mother and he says oh yes, she’s still alive.

It is almost noon and an aide with a tattoo scrolled across her neck comes in, pats him on the shoulder and says it’s time for lunch. He smiles and shakes his head no. You have to eat, she says, it will help your sugar. Then she tells me my father never talks. He’s a nice man she says; he never gives us any problems.

I’m so proud of my dad.

My father tells me that he is writing a book, and I ask him what it’s about. He thinks for a long time, and brushes back his hair and smiles and says he can’t remember. And, then I know, when I walked into the room and found my dad staring out the window – he was working on that book.

***

When I return home from the nursing home, everyone is in Sully’s room watching TV. I take out the meat clever and beat the raw chicken flat. Half an hour passes and I say, nobody asked how he was. And, Juliette says I didn’t want to ask because I didn’t want to make you cry. And I say, please come see me if I end up like that, and she says I’ll never live in a nursing home. You’ll live with me…

And, I think to myself, I use to say that. When I was 12 and could not live without my father.

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March 4 Post Script

Today, is my father’s 80th birthday. He never thought he’d live this long. Neither did I. His talk of dying created such sorrow in me, that I began grieving his death at age 14. Maybe there is some mercy in this, although I’m not ready to talk about it.

I still love to hold my father’s hand. By some miracle, the Popeye muscles in his arms have not atrophied, and every time I see him, I say, make a muscle! just like I did when I was little. He smiles and makes a muscle and, I hold onto his arm as he sits in the wheelchair. I’m more aware than ever that the blood running through his body is warm and alive. It holds me still.

boomer brush back: gen X, Y, likes baseball for the amenities, not game

photo from scott abelman via flickr

Patrick Reusse of the Minneapolis Star Tribune has written a column about baseball, It's the amenities that beckon now, not the game. Here is how he ended his opinion piece:

Today's fans want a spectacular coordination of glass and stone, not cheap bricks covered with chipped paint, and they want to be overwhelmed with amenities, rather than by the knowledge that major league baseball is being played inside the walls. This will be your ballpark, Generations X and Y and I (as in iPhone), and we Boomers promise merely to squat for a time and then get out of your way.

My husband grew up around the San Francisco Bay playing baseball and taking in many professional baseball games throughout his youth. Numerous times he's told me how expensive baseball has become, and how disappointing it is that attending pro games can be such a blow to the pocketbook.

Furthermore, I have a really hard time believing that baseball has changed because Generations X and Y want to be overwhelmed by amenities. To use an idiom derived from baseball, I think Reusse's assessment is totally off base. He is oversimplifying the changes that have occured, and fails to cite a myriad of other influences including the growth of technology and private investment in ballparks, both of which are a force behind the growing amenities.

What do you think?

are gen x men subjected to misandry more than men of previous generations?

Why do 80 men kill themselves every week? Why are 90 percent of the homeless men? Why do men die, on average, six years before women? Why don't men as a group exist?

I am posting the following video about misandry (the hatred of men) for the men I love, especially my son, Sully. I would love to hear your reaction.



The Feminist Movement was accelerated in the 1960s, the same decade Generation X arrived on the scene. If it's true that feminism has propagated misandry in western society, then do you think Generation X men have been subjected to more hatred than men of previous generations? If so, how do you think this has affected Gen X men?

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Have you ever read the poem, Dinosauria, We by Charles Bukowski? See what you think:

Born like this
Into this
As the chalk faces smile
As Mrs. Death laughs
As the ele­va­tors break
As polit­i­cal land­scapes dis­solve
As the super­mar­ket bag boy holds a col­lege degree
As the oily fish spit out their oily prey
As the sun is masked
We are
Born like this
Into this
Into these care­fully mad wars
Into the sight of bro­ken fac­tory win­dows of empti­ness
Into bars where peo­ple no longer speak to each other
Into fist fights that end as shoot­ings and knif­ings
Born into this
Into hos­pi­tals which are so expen­sive that it’s cheaper to die
Into lawyers who charge so much it’s cheaper to plead guilty
Into a coun­try where the jails are full and the mad­houses closed
Into a place where the masses ele­vate fools into rich heroes
Born into this
Walk­ing and liv­ing through this
Dying because of this
Muted because of this
Cas­trated
Debauched
Dis­in­her­ited
Because of this
Fooled by this
Used by this
Pissed on by this
Made crazy and sick by this
Made vio­lent
Made inhu­man
By this
The heart is black­ened
The fin­gers reach for the throat
The gun
The knife
The bomb
The fin­gers reach toward an unre­spon­sive god
The fin­gers reach for the bot­tle
The pill
The pow­der
We are born into this sor­row­ful dead­li­ness
We are born into a gov­ern­ment 60 years in debt
That soon will be unable to even pay the inter­est on that debt
And the banks will burn
Money will be use­less
There will be open and unpun­ished mur­der in the streets
It will be guns and rov­ing mobs
Land will be use­less
Food will become a dimin­ish­ing return
Nuclear power will be taken over by the many
Explo­sions will con­tin­u­ally shake the earth
Radi­ated robot men will stalk each other
The rich and the cho­sen will watch from space plat­forms
Dante’s Inferno will be made to look like a children’s play­ground
The sun will not be seen and it will always be night
Trees will die
All veg­e­ta­tion will die
Radi­ated men will eat the flesh of radi­ated men
The sea will be poi­soned
The lakes and rivers will van­ish
Rain will be the new gold
The rot­ting bod­ies of men and ani­mals will stink in the dark wind
The last few sur­vivors will be over­taken by new and hideous dis­eases
And the space plat­forms will be destroyed by attri­tion
The peter­ing out of sup­plies
The nat­ural effect of gen­eral decay
And there will be the most beau­ti­ful silence never heard
Born out of that.
The sun still hid­den there
Await­ing the next chapter.

generation x staffers will challenge the way state legislatures do business

The Oklahoma State Capitol/Image via Wikipedia

An article published on the National Conference of State Legislatures Web site focuses on the ways Generation X staffers (tpolicy and research analysts; clerks; chiefs of staff; press secretaries, etc.) will change the way state legislatures do business. The article discusses:

• The ability of Gen Xers to gather information very quickly;
• Gen X disdain for meetings (Gen X wants to solve problems, not talk about them);
• Gen Xers high level of energy, which will breathe new life into the legislative process

The article features brief interviews with Gen X legislative staffers representing Arkansas, Texas, Ohio, Utah, South Carolina, Virginia, Michigan, South Dakota and Wisconsin.

the gen x swagger wagon (you've got to see this)

Who is marketing to Generation X?

Embattled automaker Toyota is trying to bring back the minivan. Have you seen this commercial? It's total Gen X satire, and actually spoofs Ephron's When Harry Met Sally. At two minutes, 27 seconds, it's pretty entertaining even if it pushes the envelope on insulting.

I mean, honestly, do we act like that? I think Generation X surrendered the colloquial language of Saturday Night Live somewhere between the exit of Adam Sandler and the entrance of Jon Stewart and The Daily Show. One guy is so annoyed, he's suggested taking up a collection to hire a hit man to deal with the family. What do you think?

Will you ever buy a minivan? I swore I never would, but with three kids, it's starting to look like a viable option.

newspaper says o'brien and obama share gen x curse

Cursed? Image by Getty Images via Daylife

I'm going to go out on an unscientific limb and claim that the Louisville's Courier-Journal makes reference to Generation X more than any other media outlet in the universe. I follow this stuff pretty closely, so I'm just saying it seems to me to be the case. This is very cool, since Lousiville has an interesting connection to Generation X - it is the city where the cult following of The Big Lebowski took root.

All that aside, they have another reporter, Tamara Ikenberg, making a contribution to the Generation X dialogue. In the article, O'Brien, Obama Can't Catch A Break, she quotes Jeff Gordinier, author of X Saves the World:

“This is a classic Gen-X scenario,” said Jeff Gordinier, author of the book “X Saves the World.” “Conan waited for years for that job. He was promised the job. He paid his dues like so many Gen-Xers have in various fields. And then when he finally got the job, they messed with him. Having the rug pulled out from under you is the quintessential Gen-X experience in the workplace.”

What's really interesting is that the headline for the Courier-Journal article is much softer than the URL for the article. Look closely and pay attention, right? It bears the phrase "O'Brien, Obama Share Gen X Curse."

Now, that's a new one on me.

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Jay Leno returns to The Tonight Show this evening after refusing to stand in front of the bus under which the network threw Conan O'Brien (hat tip: Phil Rosenthal, Chicago Tribune).
 
You can celebrate Jay's return by following Conan on Twitter. He joined last week, has updated five times and has more than 500,00 followers.
 
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May the curse be with you!

pew research quiz: how gen x are you?

I was a little worried when I took this quiz from the Pew Research Center, How Millennial Are You? I'm happy to report that I am literally and quizzically Generation X. Ha! I scored a whopping 33. I think this makes me a Gen Xer by the skin of my teeth. Heresy!!! If you score a 73 you're Gen Y; an 11, you're a Boomer; a 4, a Silent. Have fun!