I have taken two long walks in my life and both of them were very short.
The first walk was from my front door to my car, which was sitting in the driveway. It was December 1997, and I was returning to work after maternity leave. Juliette was just five weeks old.
The second walk was 14 months later. My first husband of nearly 8 years told me one day after he ran to the store to buy Stove Top Stuffing that he was leaving. If you must know, he was wearing a yellow oxford. And, he was exiting the marriage just as I was hoping for another baby.
During those first few difficult days, I went to stay with someone, an experience that was so unbearable it reminded me how lucky I was to have my own home. So, after four days, I returned to my house, empty of matrimony and vacant of the sanctuary a husband provides.
So, the second long walk was down the hallway leading to the baby’s room; on the wall, wedding portraits and pictures of our little family now completely busted apart.
And, this is how you rebound from anything. You take the long walks you do not want to take and you keep walking and walking and walking and walking, and sometimes, you might even have to build your own silk road in order to reach a new civilization. So you build it, one paver at a time.
Chances are, someone or even a few someones will help you lay the bricks. They won’t even know they are holding the trowel, scooping up a pear of mortar and placing it on the foundation of your new life. They are being used as instruments of a loving God who is doing what He promises: working all the bad things together for your good.
This is how you rebound from anything. You get up and you start walking. And, you don’t stop.
|Eleanor Roosevelt with her daughter and granddaughter, both named Anna | 1939 | Source: Social Security Administration|
In her book, You Learn By Living: Eleven Keys For A More Fulfilling Life, Eleanor Roosevelt wrote:
You are able to say to yourself, `I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’
The danger lies in refusing to face the fear, in not daring to come to grips with it. If you fail anywhere along the line, it will take away your confidence. You must make yourself succeed every time. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.