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Child and Adolescent Family Therapist Shares How Social Media Is Harmful To Teens; How Technology is Damaging Generation Z‘s Ability to Form Relationships
A dangerous trend has developed from teens having relationships on smart phones and social networks. Technology has interrupted an important adolescent phase. Adolescence is the time kids get to figure out how to have intimate relationships. Child and Adolescent Family Therapist Darby Fox explains how the natural process of asking someone out, breaking up with them, picking them up at home, meeting parents, has all changed because of social media.
“An integral milestone for development is this testing period between the ages of 13-19, when kids learn how to ‘be intimate,’” says Darby. “Putting this process in the hands of technology hijacks one of life’s most basic learning periods. Technology seems like a shortcut to dealing with relationships, but it actually removes human vulnerability.”
According to Darby, relationships through social media are characterized by superficial connections:
- People texting – or sexting – without emotional connection maintain a false sense of closeness.
- People say things that they would not say to a person’s face, including insults and compliments.
- Digital connections offer the illusion of companionship without the demands of friendship.
- We are allowed to hide from each other while thinking we are tethered to each other.
- Technology makes it easy to communicate when we wish and disengage at will.
“This is actually very lonely,” says Darby.
As a result of technology, whole relationships can be formed without ever meeting each other.
“If there is limited personal contact, teens do not have the experience to judge what is happening,” Darby says. “Emotions rely on physical, verbal and optical cues. Without these, our complex neurological chemistry cannot develop.”
Social networks such as Facebook allow kids to completely fabricate their social life. A great deal of time is put into creating what teens think their lives should be. Darby warns, that social media will ultimately create an entire generation not able to communicate or interact in-person.
Darby emphasizes that our culture of “alone together” will have far reaching effects if we do not begin to demand and model real person-to-person connections, especially through the teenage years. Bottom line: Social Media Is Harmful To Teens.